In the past, I have talked about how important it is to surround yourself with the right people. Today we are going to talk a little bit more about why that is important and what we can do about building our team.
I’ve always heard that you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. This is probably truer than not if you actually sit down and think about it.
For example, think about your workplace, or your class. Some of these people are the people that you spend the most time with (whether under your own will or forced).
Now think about the lives these five people live. Their hobbies, their habits, their incomes, their lifestyles, their vocabulary, their mannerisms, and their actions.
Maybe you don’t even realize it, but these personality elements unconsciously wear off on you. I mean how could they not? After all, you are probably spending 8 hours a day with these people.
When I first went into the Coast Guard it became obvious that my circle of friends (or co-workers) (or more precisely, shipmates) were wearing off on me. I lived with these guys. Day in and day out. 24 hours a day for months on end.
I, subconsciously starting picking up and displaying many of their habits, both good and bad. Looking back some years later, I problem picked up on ore bad than good.
As humans, we have an inborn tendency to try and fit in with the crowd or go with the flow of things. We are deathly afraid of standing out. This fear is probably hard-wired to our reptilian brain and could be traced back millions of years. Back then, our distance ancestors had to hunt and fight to survive, often times standing out meant death, or at least no food on the dinner plates that night.
Back then, blending in was beneficial. Becoming one with our surroundings meant or pray couldn’t differentiate between us, and nature. Blending in gave our early human ancestors the upper hand in surviving.
Now fast forward a few million years and we are still stuck with the notion we must blend in to survive. But now, we need to ask ourselves, who or what are we blending in with? Are we blending in with the predators or the prey?
Surround yourself with people, places, dogs, and things that make you a better version of yourself. Surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you, the people that force you to grow in the right ways.
This is not a one-sided affair. You have to be your best self. You have to bring your best game to the pack. In the reptilian world, the weak are left behind to starve. Maybe if they’re lucky, they get to eat the scraps left behind by the pack. Lucky for you, your not the weak link. You my friend, are the apex.
Celebrate the wins of those in your team as they are wins of your win. Work diligently to build each other up.