what is mental toughness? The #1 trait

What is mental toughness? How do YOU define mental toughness?

Think about that for a moment. We increase our physical toughness through controlled exercise. But how often do we ever think about the non visible side of strength?

Research has identified that having an unshakable self-belief in your ability to achieve your competition goals was the number one most important factor of mental toughness.

This trait, above all else, can separate you from being okay to being good.

Or even better, it can separate you from being great to being excellent.

You must continually pursue excellence.

Pursuing excellence is different than being a perfectionist. Perfection does not exist, but excellence, on the other hand, is as real as it comes.

To pursue excellence even in the face of adversity, we must have an unshakable self-belief.

You must hold your head up high and carry yourself confidently toward your goals.

You have to believe in yourself before anyone will ever believe in you.

purpose

Finding purpose. This is something we hear tossed around a lot.

Unfortunately, the harder we seek to find our purpose, the further away from we get from our actual purpose in life.

For years, I underwent self-analysis in an effort to “find my purpose” in life.

Despite having looked at this problem for years, I never felt like I was any closer to discovering my true life purpose.

The problem with this approach is we often become too concerned with finding our purpose and stop focusing on what gives our life purpose in the first place.

For me, the easiest way to finding my purpose was to stop looking for it.

Spend less time seeking what gives you purpose, and spend more time doing what gives you a feeling of purpose.

Living a life of purpose is much like happiness, or success. These are all self-defined beliefs. Meaning you have to know how you define them before you can ever reach that definition.

So how do you define purpose? 

Think about that for a time before answering this question, because the answer is going to be key in finding and living your own life purpose.

For me, a purpose driven life is adding value to those around me. Whether it is my family, friends, clients, or my even my dogs. The more I can help them live a better life, the more a feel a strong sense of purpose in my own life.

life

debt

debt /det/ noun – something, typically money, that is owed or due.
Fuck being in debt.
Five steps I used to get out of debt
  1. Inventory – what do you really need to spend? Chances are there is quite a bit of trimming you can do with your spending.
  2. Budget – Once you get a spending idea, start setting a planned budget each month. Any additional leftover funds (bonuses, gifts) go toward paying off your highest interest rate loan.
  3. Sell – Part ways with the shit you don’t need. Don’t use it, sell it. Don’t need it, sell it.
  4. Extra payments – like I said above, any profits you make or any additional funds can go toward paying off your high-interest loans (think credit cards, cash advances, etc. Make sure these payments are on principal only and make sure there is no early pay off fees associated with your debt. Once that debt is paid, move on to the next highest interest debt. Rinse and repeat until you have everything paid off or sold.
  5. Save/Invest – now comes the fun part. starting saving and investing.
I am happy to say for nearly the past 10 years I have been debt free, other than my house which isn’t considered “bad” debt since there is (hopefully) a positive return on investment if I were to sell.
At the ripe old age of 22 years, I decided I was tired of being in debt. At that point I was single, and somewhere in the vicinity of $30,000+ in debt.
I know I don’t normally talk about money on this site, but I strongly feel that debt can have a negative impact on your health. Getting your debt, and spending under control is one step closer to mastering your self-control and discipline.
A man in debt is anything but a free man.
When I decided to get out of debt, the first thing I did was take account of what I actually need to spend to live, and what I was wasting on material junk.
After having an idea of a “budget”, I took inventory of what I actually needed to keep, and decided to part ways with all the extra stuff in my life.
This wasn’t easy by any means. I remember when I sold my motorcycle, a beautifully customized Yamaha R6, I told the buyer I couldn’t do it once he showed up with cash in hand.
Luckily for him, and for my debt, I held up my word and signed the title over. That was hard. But relieving myself of the debt felt fucking good.
Over the following few years I sold off several more of my “toys”, any profits I would make from the sale went toward payments on higher interest items like credit card debt.
Eventually, I was able to finally fly the debt-free flag, and take one step closer to charting my own financial future.

Keep in mind, not all debt is bad debt. Things like business debts, or even home mortgages are sometimes a necessary evil when it comes to finances.

learn

The more you learn, the more you know.

People will DM me on my Instagram and always ask where I come up with topics to write about.

Most of the time, I just write about ideas that are floating around in my head.

But in order to get these ideas to float freely, I have to keep exposing myself to new ideas.

It isn’t enough to just learn some things in 12 years of school. Or 4 or even 8 years in college and call it good.

Life requires continual education. Actually, life doesn’t “require” it, and that’s the problem for most people.

However, growth does require continual education.

If you want to learn more about something or understand something on a deeper more innate level, continually study it.

It really doesn’t matter the subject, if it interested you, then go for it.

One major problem with society is we view learning as a form of education.

When we think of this, we tend to focus on math, science, English, etc.

It’s important to remember that learning can take many forms.

What’s even more important to remember is that if you want to learn more about a particular topic, then study it. It doesn’t matter what the topic is. It’s yours to discover.

Own your education. Go learn.

 

work

 

get going

Sometimes getting started is more than half the battle.

Next time you don’t feel like undergoing the task at hand, just get started.

Just dive in head first and start swimming.

People always ask me, how do you wake up at 4:30 AM every day?

The truth is, I hear my alarm and have that same gut feeling you do. Thank God I’m alive and have another opportunity at this game called life.

That is what you think when you first hear your morning alarm ring, right?

If not, it should be. Someone once told me, if you think waking up early is hard. Try not waking up.

Okay. point taken.

So next time you really don’t want to wake up early, or go to the gym, or write that paper, or make that phone call, etc, etc etc. Just start.

It does not have to be perfect, or even pretty to get started. But you have to get started.

So just start somewhere, you can always go back and fine tune later on. But for now, just get your feet on the floor, and words on paper. The rest will come with time.

Even the longest journey begins with taking the first step.

 

work

you’re lazy

Four keys to battling your inner lazy self

  1. Plan your day. Plan your time, or time will make a plan for you. Make a list of a few things you have to get done today and this week. And set out to do them. Don’t skip them, and don’t do other shit until they are done.
  2. Write it down. Go old school and make notes on a pad of paper. Make a daily, and weekly to-do list. Crossing off your to-do list is highly rewarding. Looking at tasks left undone is often enough motivation to keep grinding.
  3. Stop hitting snooze. Next time you set your damn alarm, get up when it rings. Yes, you will be tired, yes you might still be drunk from last night. But getting up and getting started is half the battle. Fight it.
  4. Bounce. Life is undoubtedly going to knock you on your ass. Sometimes pretty hard. The good news is, it happens to all of us. So, when it happens to you. Bounce. Get back up and fight for position. You can either be a victim, or you can be a victor.  The choice is yours so I suggest you fight like hell for the latter.

 

Face it. You’re lazy.  I know this, because I am lazy too. There is something that is within human nature that just screams laziness.

We, as humans, want everything the easy way. We want it the fast way. We want it cheap. It’s just how things work. We live off instant gratification and drive-thru Starbucks.

I am not saying there is anything wrong with that. But its just not how life works. Nothing, in the long run, is cheap, easy and fast.

Life is a drawn-out series of continual grinds, day after day, hour after hour. Life doesn’t give us dollar menus. There is no 30 minutes or less guarantee in life.

In fact, sometimes we can spend years or even decades working on something just to have it take shit on us in the end.

And that’s okay. The purpose of life isn’t always to win. No one gets a participation trophy at death’s door.

You either win, or you don’t. And it really doesn’t matter how many times you don’t as long as you do one more time. You can lose 10 times in a row, but that 11th time is your time to shine.

The problem is, we are lazy. We quit and give up if we don’t get it right away.  Every single day is battle to be won. Keep fighting the good fight. Save being lazy for someone else.

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do whats right

Do what’s right, not what’s easy.

More often than not, this is a hard pill to swallow.

Doing the right thing is a lot more difficult than taking the easy road.

Anyone can take the easy road. Hitting the snooze button on a cold winter morning is the easy road. Skipping the training session because your friends are out of town is the easy road.  Picking up fast food on the way home is the easy road.

However, nowhere along the easy road will you find your inner greatness.

There’s an old adage that smooth seas never made a skillful sailor.

This statement is exactly true.

Even if you’re scared of the water in your bathtub, a smooth life never made anything out of anyone.. Unless you’re a trump or kardashian,  you need to work for it.

Anyone can float with a Mojito in hand at the Mia Rivera, but once you get slammed by a rogue 30ft wave, once your grit is tested, the real you will be evident. The work you have or in most cases, haven’t put in will become self-evident.

Life will easily pass by those who have lived easily. If you want something bad enough, do what is right, not what is easy.

 

work.