learn

The more you learn, the more you know.

People will DM me on my Instagram and always ask where I come up with topics to write about.

Most of the time, I just write about ideas that are floating around in my head.

But in order to get these ideas to float freely, I have to keep exposing myself to new ideas.

It isn’t enough to just learn some things in 12 years of school. Or 4 or even 8 years in college and call it good.

Life requires continual education. Actually, life doesn’t “require” it, and that’s the problem for most people.

However, growth does require continual education.

If you want to learn more about something or understand something on a deeper more innate level, continually study it.

It really doesn’t matter the subject, if it interested you, then go for it.

One major problem with society is we view learning as a form of education.

When we think of this, we tend to focus on math, science, English, etc.

It’s important to remember that learning can take many forms.

What’s even more important to remember is that if you want to learn more about a particular topic, then study it. It doesn’t matter what the topic is. It’s yours to discover.

Own your education. Go learn.

 

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get going

Sometimes getting started is more than half the battle.

Next time you don’t feel like undergoing the task at hand, just get started.

Just dive in head first and start swimming.

People always ask me, how do you wake up at 4:30 AM every day?

The truth is, I hear my alarm and have that same gut feeling you do. Thank God I’m alive and have another opportunity at this game called life.

That is what you think when you first hear your morning alarm ring, right?

If not, it should be. Someone once told me, if you think waking up early is hard. Try not waking up.

Okay. point taken.

So next time you really don’t want to wake up early, or go to the gym, or write that paper, or make that phone call, etc, etc etc. Just start.

It does not have to be perfect, or even pretty to get started. But you have to get started.

So just start somewhere, you can always go back and fine tune later on. But for now, just get your feet on the floor, and words on paper. The rest will come with time.

Even the longest journey begins with taking the first step.

 

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you’re lazy

Four keys to battling your inner lazy self

  1. Plan your day. Plan your time, or time will make a plan for you. Make a list of a few things you have to get done today and this week. And set out to do them. Don’t skip them, and don’t do other shit until they are done.
  2. Write it down. Go old school and make notes on a pad of paper. Make a daily, and weekly to-do list. Crossing off your to-do list is highly rewarding. Looking at tasks left undone is often enough motivation to keep grinding.
  3. Stop hitting snooze. Next time you set your damn alarm, get up when it rings. Yes, you will be tired, yes you might still be drunk from last night. But getting up and getting started is half the battle. Fight it.
  4. Bounce. Life is undoubtedly going to knock you on your ass. Sometimes pretty hard. The good news is, it happens to all of us. So, when it happens to you. Bounce. Get back up and fight for position. You can either be a victim, or you can be a victor.  The choice is yours so I suggest you fight like hell for the latter.

 

Face it. You’re lazy.  I know this, because I am lazy too. There is something that is within human nature that just screams laziness.

We, as humans, want everything the easy way. We want it the fast way. We want it cheap. It’s just how things work. We live off instant gratification and drive-thru Starbucks.

I am not saying there is anything wrong with that. But its just not how life works. Nothing, in the long run, is cheap, easy and fast.

Life is a drawn-out series of continual grinds, day after day, hour after hour. Life doesn’t give us dollar menus. There is no 30 minutes or less guarantee in life.

In fact, sometimes we can spend years or even decades working on something just to have it take shit on us in the end.

And that’s okay. The purpose of life isn’t always to win. No one gets a participation trophy at death’s door.

You either win, or you don’t. And it really doesn’t matter how many times you don’t as long as you do one more time. You can lose 10 times in a row, but that 11th time is your time to shine.

The problem is, we are lazy. We quit and give up if we don’t get it right away.  Every single day is battle to be won. Keep fighting the good fight. Save being lazy for someone else.

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do whats right

Do what’s right, not what’s easy.

More often than not, this is a hard pill to swallow.

Doing the right thing is a lot more difficult than taking the easy road.

Anyone can take the easy road. Hitting the snooze button on a cold winter morning is the easy road. Skipping the training session because your friends are out of town is the easy road.  Picking up fast food on the way home is the easy road.

However, nowhere along the easy road will you find your inner greatness.

There’s an old adage that smooth seas never made a skillful sailor.

This statement is exactly true.

Even if you’re scared of the water in your bathtub, a smooth life never made anything out of anyone.. Unless you’re a trump or kardashian,  you need to work for it.

Anyone can float with a Mojito in hand at the Mia Rivera, but once you get slammed by a rogue 30ft wave, once your grit is tested, the real you will be evident. The work you have or in most cases, haven’t put in will become self-evident.

Life will easily pass by those who have lived easily. If you want something bad enough, do what is right, not what is easy.

 

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getting un-stuck

Are you tired of getting the same old results? I know the feeling, and there is only one way to break from this routine. You have to step outside of your comfort zone.

No growth comes from within the comfort zone. If you want new outcomes, you have to  first change the input.

It’s like planting a garden. You cannot plant corn and then be upset come harvest time because you don’t have any beans.

If you want beans, then start planting beans and stop planting corn.

The harvest is not enough though. First, there are several months in between planting and the harvest where the crops have to be cared for.

You can rarely just throw some seeds down and come back several months later for a harvest.  You have to care for your crops, you have to weed them, and water them. You have to make sure the temperature and soil are just right.

It’s like that old facebook game Farmville (which sadly I admit I have played). Even in that game, you cannot just leave your farm to run itself.

The same is true with your mind, you have to care for the thoughts and actions you allow into your life. Thoughts and actions are the seeds and your mind is the soil.

Take care of it. Afterall a good harvest requires consistent care and hard work from start to finish.

happiness

I am a big fan of goal setting. However, there is one goal that I wish to never see on someone’s goal board, the goal of “being happy”.

Although this is a well-meaning goal, happiness is not something you can get. Having happiness isn’t the same as having a cold. It’s not something that physically forces you to alter a behavior.

Rather, happiness is something you either have or you don’t. It’s like the title to a vehicle. Sure you can have possession of the vehicle without a title, but in order to truly own the vehicle, you must have the title.

Happiness is also not dependant on circumstances. You can choose right now to be happy. You don’t need to wait for that job or wait until the kids are out of school, or wait until this or that to take place. You can choose happiness.

The nervous system processes information by first observing the stimuli, and then by dictating the appropriate response.

Stub your toe (stimuli) get mad about it (response).

Or stub your toe (stimuli), think “ouch that hurt, now I know where that table is and I wont be doing that again” (response).

The same stimuli can present an opportunity for you to choose your response.

You are your nervous system.  You can choose how to respond to stimuli. Just as you can choose to be happy right now.

Choose happiness now

 

 

 

 

 

 

self-image

When you think of yourself? What usually comes to mind first? Your looks, personality, attitude?

The self-image is a complex system of how you “see” yourself. This includes how you see your abilities, your appearance, and even your personality.

Within the self-image, there is a fine line between being a narcissist and seeing yourself in a positive, likable manner.

When it comes to self-image, there is good news and bad news.

Starting with the bad: The self-image is usually something that is developed during the early childhood years. Some psychologists even say we develop our self-image between 2-5 years old.

It is often during these years when our parents and other well-meaning adults start labeling us. He is athletic, he is a slow learner, he is a fast learner, he is artistic, etc, etc, etc.

The good news is, you don’t have to blame mom and dad. The self-image is a self  governed system. Meaning you can change how you see your self. The process is slow, much like changing your physical appearance, but it is possible.

Start by creating yourself image.

First, you have to change the way you think about yourself. Instead of thinking “of course, I am running late. I am always late.” Shift your mindset to, “I’m running late, I must get things in order, it is unlike me to be late”.

Second, you must repeat this process for anything you wish to change about yourself. You have to do this day in and day out. When you picture yourself, see the person you could be, see the person you are going to be and focus on that self-image.

This process has to be completed for every character trait you wish you change; lifestyle, habits, diet, money, exercise, relationships.

After all, it is your self-image. Not your spouses, not your bosses, and surely not mom and dads. Create your own self-image, stop blaming others for your behavior, and don’t merely accept the image others placed upon you.

Someone’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality.