stop hitting blind

I am no golfer, but I have been around the sport enough to know that anyone who is decent at the sport never just swings carelessly at the ball.

Instead, they have an exact location where they are aiming the ball to land. If they are good enough, they can see, in detail, where they want the ball to land before ever taking the shot.

Does it always land where they intend? No, absolutely not. And that is a part of sport that is also true for life.

We cannot always get our ball to land perfectly on the fairway. Sometimes we end up buried in the rough.

This doesn’t have to mean that the game is over. We just need a few extra strokes to get back to where we intended.

Just as a good golfer can see where the ball is going before swinging the club, we have to see where we are going before ever leaving. To many of us just swing carelessly blind at life.

Start focusing on where you intend to land before you start swinging. You won’t always land directly where you intend, but you have to know where the pin is before you set off swinging.

See it in as much detail as possible.

Then line up and take the shot.

 

mindset monday

Change your own thought pattern.

Sometimes when we get caught up in the midst of a hard workout or event, we start focusing on the pain.

Your legs are burning. Your lunges are screaming. Your heart is beating in your throat.

Ever felt that?

I know I have.

What normally happens when those feelings start to creep their way into our conscious minds?

We start focusing on them. We focus on the pain they bring with them.

Damn that hurts we start thinking as the pain intensifies.

Guess what. Pain is real. Breaking a bone is pain. Lungs burning from a sprint is discomfort. There is a major difference between the two. Pain is helpful. It tells you when you tap out or throttle back.  Discomfort, on the other hand, is what we are feeling, and discomfort is lying to you.

Discomfort is your brain telling you something is not normal.

It’s not telling you that you’re in pain. It’s telling you there is discomfort.

Acknowledge and move on.

It’s like when someone tells you it’s raining outside, while you are already outside getting wet. Oh no kidding, you think. Biting your tongue.

Next time your heart is in your throat, your legs are screaming and your lungs are burning, accept it as a notification, think, oh not kidding and move on.

Don’t give your discomfort power.

memento mori

Memento mori is a Latin phrase to serve as a reminder that we all have to someday die.

I personally love this phrase, not because it reminds me of death. But because it reminds me to live now.

The truth is, whether we want to think about it or not, we all are someday going to die. Everything around is will someday cease to be.

Does it suck? Yeah, maybe. But don’t let it bother you. We can ignore this fact and go on living our shallow existences, or we can embrace the fact and face our fears head-on with an intensity unmatched by the common man.

I hear people say all the time that they would love to do this, or love to do that, but they are afraid. What are you afraid of? Living the life you’ve dreamed of? Or living a life unfulfilled.

We all die – but not all of us live. 

Time on earth is short. Don’t spend it being afraid to live.

The average lifespan of a human being is somewhere around 70 or 80 years. That might seem like enough time but look at it from a historical perspective.

Look back on the timeline of the earth. 7 decades is an incredibly short period of time in the grand scheme of things.

Don’t hunker down thinking you can hide from death by living a common life.

If you want something out of life, go get it.

If you are reading these words, it’s not too late to start living. Emerson said, do the thing and you will have the power.

Notice that “doing the thing” comes before “having the power”.

do the thing. live your years.

 

 

 

 

live now

People ask me all the time,

Caleb, how do you stay so motivated?

My answer is always the same.

I don’t. I’m not motivated. When my alarm rings at 430 AM, I wake up with the same initial thought as you… fuck this. I’m tired, I’m cold, and I hate getting up early. 

The key is, I get motivated. I don’t stay motivated. You don’t stay clean if you only shower once a week. You get clean when you shower daily. Motivation is a daily thing.

So what keeps me getting motivated day in and day out?

One simple fact.

We are slowly dying.

Someday we will all be dead. I know. Some people hate thinking about this. I know I am not all that comfortable with it sometimes either.

But knowing that I am someday going to die keeps me grinding away on the path. It keeps me from hitting the snooze too many times. It keeps me honest.

Since I know I am going to die, I choose to not put my life on hold. I am not willing to trade in my goals and say I’ll get to that someday. 

For many of us, someday will never come. We are not guaranteed tomorrow, so stop waiting to live.

 

 

start with why

You will never make it far in life if you don’t have a why.

This can be something simple, like wanting to live a healthier life in order to gain more years to spend with family. Or getting out of debt to gain more financial freedom.

Or it can be something direct, like training for an event, studying for a degree, losing weight for a wedding.

Either way, you have to have a why.

The why itself does not matter as much as making sure you have one. 

I watch people all the time come into the gym train hard for an upcoming event or competition, and then afterward they are gone for several weeks or months.

I have seen people work their asses off to lose weight, only to lose the weight and then find it again a few short months later.

It’s easy to work toward something when you have a why.

Whys are not stationary

These can, and should change with you. Once you reach it, set a new one out in the not so distant future.

Having a why in place keeps you going when you want to give up.

Whatever you are setting out to do, do it for a purpose.

Keep working toward something.

move on

I don’t watch a lot of American football, but I did take notice of the Green Bay Packers kicker, Mason Crosby lackluster performance against the Detroit Lions.  During this game, Crosby missed something like 5 kicks. Crosby typically makes 80% of his kicks. During that game, his average was 20%.

Like I said, I don’t care about football, but from a psychological perspective, I find this fascinating. What would cause someone who can usually knock 80% of their kicks through the uprights to go 1 for 5.

Surely this could not be something mechanical. The guy obviously knows what he is doing.

Even more impressive, 8 days later Crosby returned to the field to kick a perfect 100%, scoring 4 field goals.

I am not sure what he did in the previous 8 days, but let it be a lesson to all of us. Let go of past failures, and mistakes. If Crosby was still dwelling on those missed opportunities from the previous week there would have been no way he could have performed as he did.

If an NFL player with millions of people watching, judging, analyzing, can let go and move on. What is stopping you?

Next time you suffer a “bad game” take it for what its worth. A bad game, not a bad life, and move on.

 

 

 

 

 

 

stress

Stop letting stress control your life.

If you are an athlete or even a functioning human being for that matter, there is no doubt you have experienced the stressors of life.

Stress can have severe damaging potential. You must take control over stress in life. Do not let it define who you are and what you are capable of becoming.

Some stress is a good thing. This is probably a trait that has been passed down over the centuries from our distant ancestors.

Without some stress, these folks would have had a difficult time surviving in the harsh realities of hunting and gathering.

Stress would have been a positive cue to take cover from storms, or from not so friendly predators.

To much stress, however, can have a negative impact on your performance, and overall quality of life.

Back then, stress helped to save your ass from getting mauled by a bear or scalped by the neighboring tribe. Today, we have a different kind of stress, and for most of us, it doesn’t involve getting eaten alive.

Today we manufacture our stressors. Work, school, parents, spouses, all present an element of stress. When not properly dealt with, these stressors build up and leave us feeling like it is a survival situation, when usually it isn’t.

Learn to recognize and deal with the stressors in your life. Before they get out of control. Remember, stress like an emotion is mostly how you respond. See stressful situations for what they really are.