Stop wasting your time trying to find the grand purpose of your life.
This was a problem I struggled with for years.
I felt like I was living a purposeless life.
I would bounce around aimlessly, never finding any inner peace contentment.
Here is a secret: your purpose is to live – to the best of your ability. To make the world a better place because you have lived in it. That is your purpose in life.
How you go about doing that is up to you. But the general overriding purpose of life is to improve the plant and the lives of those already in existence.
One way we can live our purpose is through delayed gratification or sometimes called deferred gratification. DG, as I will refer to it from here on out, is really nothing new in our society.
In fact, Stanford ran a study on DG a few decades before I was even born. The study, as a recall, was fairly simple and straightforward. The researchers gave kids a plate of candy. They told the kids they could eat the candy now, or wait for the researcher to return to earn additional candy.
What the study found was that kids who were able to wait were far more likely to become “successful” later on in their lives. Success, in this case, was measured by academic advancement, health, happiness later on. In essence, the kids were far less likely to experience social disorders, mental health conditions, and general behavior problems.
Now, can you wait to eat the damn candy? Or do you devour it as soon as the opportunity presents itself?
How you answered that question was really not the important, because the good news is, you can change this behavior if you choose to do so.
DG is a skill that can be developed. We can all learn to DG until a later date. We can learn to pass over the small rewards to keep an eye on the big prize.
This skill is developed through practice and discipline. Stop taking the easy road. Stop cheating yourself and lying your way through life.
Start living the hard life today.
Start doing the small things that you really do not feel like doing but you know you should.
Developing the ability to DG promote other skills such as patience, impulse control, self-control, and willpower, all of which are involved in self-regulation.
More importantly, self-regulation promotes the ability to adapt to a changing environment.
Delaying gratification puts you in control of your own life.
You become the master of your fate.
Delayed gratification is the exact opposite of immediate gratification.
Seeking immediate gratification is not always a bad thing, but this can come in many forms. Most evident is the I want it, I want it now mentality. Fight this urge.
Next time you have the urge to check your Instagram or Facebook for the 77th time today, don’t. Put your phone down and fight the urge.
Next time you have the urge to drink that beer after a long day, don’t.
Instead, wait until you are in control. Don’t be a slave to every desire your brain throws your way.